Remind yourself that it’s okay to focus on your own happiness. You’ve been in the process of making everyone happy for such a long time. You made them worthy of pleasure. You made them believe that there’s always that one reason to be happy despite all the odds along the way. So now, take time to attend to your own happiness. Look at the blue sky. Smell the flowers. Breathe. Do the things you intend to do. Do everything to make yourself worthy of the happiness you are giving to others. Before you rely your happiness to someone, look at yourself and be your own reason to be happy.
Remind yourself that it’s fine to weep for some time. You’ve been living your whole life surviving each day even if it’s too hard just to get by. No matter how much effort you give, you made yourself accept the fact that things don’t always work on your side. That most of the time, courage is admitting your weakness but it doesn’t mean you’ll give up. You’ll break, you’ll lose, you’ll cry, but the most important thing is you survive. You survive and that’s the true sign of strength.
Remind yourself that it’s fine to rule out the world some time. For most of your existence, you’ve been the perfect-flawless-model human. But keep in mind that you don’t always need to be that picture perfect human. Sometimes, in order to keep pace of the world, you need to do crazy things, to be messy and to care less about the world. Accept that you’re just a mere human being capable of doing silly things like other people.
Remind yourself that it’s fine to love yourself more. You have given the best portion of your heart to someone you love – whom you thought love you in return. But then somewhere between believing you have given them the best of you and trying to still leave them a space in your heart, know that your heart needs to rest, too. Your heart, the most vulnerable fragment of your existence needs to slow down a little – to assess things and prepare to love again, now, with yourself.
Many times, your heart may rip into pieces, hammered with lots of pain and aches, but the possibility of putting back the broken pieces is yours to make. You don’t need someone to complete the puzzle of your aching heart. Remind yourself, dear that even without them, your heart is whole, to begin with. Love yourself better than the love you offer to someone. You deserve the love that is endless, unrequited and real. Love yourself, love yourself more, love yourself most, because you deserve it.
Most of all, remind yourself that it’s fine to make mistakes, to pamper yourself with the things you like, to enjoy the scenic views outside, to hold hands with yourself, to pat yourself in the shoulder (because you’re tougher than you thought), to look straight in the mirror and be proud of what you see, to say things you’re afraid to say and most importantly, to open your heart and start loving yourself even more. ###